● Waitlist · Two people a year

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This is not a booking. Nothing is reserved and nothing is charged. You write to me, I read it properly, and if it reads right you get a call — one long call, no assistant, no script. The call decides it, not the form.

Most applications get a kind no, and it is almost never about the person. There are two seats in a year and I would rather leave one empty than fill it badly.

01 — You write 02 — I read it 03 — We talk 04 — Dates & the pin

01 — How long

Choose honestly rather than ambitiously. A truthful seven beats a fifteen you spend negotiating your way home.

07 daysThe EmptyingThe shortest I will agree to.

15 daysThe ClearingWhere it usually happens.

2 monthsThe ReturnOne of the two seats in the year.

CustomOpenYour calendar, your shape.

The shape you need

Split stays, off-season, a three-week window between two commitments — tell me what the year actually looks like.

02 — Rough window

A season is enough. Nothing is held until we have spoken.

03 — Your name

Use whichever address you actually read. Personal is better than the one your team monitors.

Number for the call

With the country code, plus the hours you are reachable and your time zone. The call runs about an hour.

Who you are out there

A link, a handle, a one-line description — or nothing at all. It genuinely does not decide anything; it only saves the first ten minutes of the call.

04 — Why now

Not why one day. Why this year, after all the years you did not. This is the answer I actually read.

What you would like to put down

Optional, and there is no wrong answer. Some people write one word.

The last time you were alone

Properly alone — no phone, no music, no one waiting on you. Roughly when, and how long it lasted.

05 — Anything I need to know

We are off grid and help is not close by. Conditions, medication, mobility, anything you are currently being treated for, anything that makes cold water or long days outdoors a bad idea. This is confidential and it is the section I read hardest — being straight here makes a yes more likely, not less.

06 — Say yes to these before you send My phone goes in a drawer on day one. No signal, no wifi, no exceptions for work — and I have arranged my life so that is survivable. Cold water, walking, heat, early mornings and long stretches of nothing. I am physically and mentally up for that, and I have said so honestly above. There is no price, no deposit and no invoice — and no obligation to give anything afterwards. I am applying for myself. Nobody sent me.

On discretion. Nothing you write here is published, quoted or shared. No cameras and no content at the retreat. If you would rather not put any of this in writing, send an empty note saying so and I will call you instead — 1012rb@gmail.com

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Replies take up to two weeks. If the answer is no you will still get one.